Category: Coaching

  • Let Us Play – How adults are damaging kids sports

    Let Us Play – How adults are damaging kids sports

    A fascinating and extremely informative podcast from BBC 5 live Sport. Please share this with coaches and parents at your club. Includes tips from psychologists and stories from pushy, competitive parents and much more…

    How much pressure is too much?

    Olympian Karen Pickering delves into the world of children’s sport and the part their parents play.

    She hears from Kevin, a football Dad forced to change his ways when he realised how unhappy he was making his son; a 10 year-old swimmer who was so good that other parents booed her at a competition; and a former professional Ice Hockey player, whose Dad physically and emotionally abused him for years.

    Let Us Play also looks at what parents can do to make sure they’re supportive, rather than pushy, with their children and the sport they participate in.

    Click to podcast here >> Let Us Play or on Itunes Let Us Play

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  • “Kids are overcoached”- Rangers & Scottish International Barry Ferguson

    “Kids are overcoached”- Rangers & Scottish International Barry Ferguson

    BARRY reflects on his time coming through as a teenager at Ibrox and claims the biggest problem with the current system is that youngsters are being OVERCOACHED.

    SO Gordon Strachan’s plan for the future of Scottish football is to turn the clock back 30 years? Well, let me be the first to say he’s got it absolutely spot on.

    Thirty years ago I was seven. And every day was the same. Run home from primary school, dump my bag, get my joggies and T-shirt on, grab my goalie gloves, boots and ball and straight back out.

    An hour and a half later I’d hear my dad whistle and I knew it was time for dinner. Run back home, square sausage and chips. Bang.

    “It’s like they’re living in a completely different world. They’ve got all the latest kit, washed and ironed for them, the new boots, the slicked-back hair and everything is laid on for them at the best facilities. But when I look at their wee faces I don’t see the same enjoyment I felt at that age”

    Scran it down, run straight back out the door, start playing again, get a stitch, feel sick, lie on the grass for five minutes then get back on the park. A couple of hours later I’d hear another whistle and knew it was bath time. That was it. That was my whole life. And I couldn’t have been happier.

    Funnily enough, I bumped into an old neighbour a few weeks ago and the first thing he said was: “I remember you kicking that ball of yours around at all sorts of times under the streetlights.”

    I wasn’t allowed to play with it inside because my dad used to threaten to toe me up the a*** if I smashed anything, so I’d take a pair of his old socks, roll them up into a ball and cover them in masking tape. Then I’d try to do overhead kicks with it on the couch.

    That was how I grew up and how I fell in love with playing football. And Strachan is right – the sooner we get back to something similar, the quicker we might start developing some proper football players again.

    These days I watch a lot of the Under-20 games and, like Strachan, I’m not a fan. I can’t help but look at these kids and think they’ve been over-coached.

    I’m not having a go at the coaches because they are trying their best. But the problem goes deeper. It’s more to do with modern life and the way our youngsters are growing up.

    From a very early age all they want to do is mess about on iPads, laptops, Xboxes or Playstations. They have forgotten what it’s like to make their own entertainment.

    It breaks my heart every time I drive past a piece of grass and don’t see a kid with a ball on it. It makes me think back to my own childhood and how different things were back then. I grew up in a scheme in Bellshill. There was another scheme half-a-mile away and we would organise games against each other. But that was just a part of it.

    I’d be out there with my mates building goalposts out of scrap wood. We would borrow a lawnmower from someone’s dad and cut the grass ourselves. Then we’d nick a bag of sawdust from somewhere and put down lines. It was just a field we were playing in but, for us, it felt like we were running out at Hampden.

    Now I look at these 10-11-12-year-olds who are already signed up with clubs playing pro youth football and I wonder what they would have made of us.

    It’s like they’re living in a completely different world. They’ve got all the latest kit, washed and ironed for them, the new boots, the slicked-back hair and everything is laid on for them at the best facilities. But when I look at their wee faces I don’t see the same enjoyment I felt at that age. Half of them look as if they are bored to death and going through the motions. As if they’d rather be at home playing FIFA 2016.

    I can’t blame them either because I watch the way these training sessions are being put on and I shake my head in disbelief. When I was a boy I used to enjoy coaching sessions and I really loved the drills we got.

    But they were much more simple back then. These days it’s as if the coach is trying to be the star, setting up drills that are so OTT and so complicated that half the time the kids don’t know what’s going on.

    For me, these passing drills should be set up in order for every boy to get a touch of the ball every three or four seconds. But I’m now watching passing drills where the youngsters are standing freezing cold in long lines getting one touch every minute. That drives me crazy.

    By the time the kid gets his turn he’s either standing there, shivering with his sleeves over his hand, talking to one of his mates about how bored he is or daydreaming about what’s for dinner that night. You can see them losing interest in front of your face.

    With my boys, I make it so simple they are always getting a touch of the ball, always on the move. That way they are always concentrating. Their minds are always on the drill. That’s the way to make them enjoy it.

    What you want to do is make them feel the way we used to as boys – make them desperate to come back again tomorrow. I don’t see that in many of today’s youngsters.

    Gordon is right. Somewhere along the line we have taken the fun out of football and if he can find a way to bring that back then he’ll be doing our entire game a massive favour.

    Give these kids a ball. Give them simple instructions and let them play. Let them try to copy Cristiano Ronaldo and Lionel Messi and don’t criticise them when they do a
    stepover or try an overhead kick.

    Yes, from time to time you might tell them not to try these things inside their own penalty box – there’s a time and place – but the whole point is we need to let these kids express themselves and enjoy playing the game.

    I’m sick of watching 10-year-olds playing in a rigid 4-4-2 or a 4-2-3-1, terrified to get caught out of position in case they are told off by the coach.

    “Today’s youths have gone soft but I don’t blame them. I blame the system they are being brought up in. If Strachan can change all that then, yes, he really might manage to fix Scottish football”

    No wonder they get fed up with football. By the time they reach Under-20s they have been completely conditioned into playing the game a certain way. They are not individual football players, they are clones.

    And that’s why, if I could speak to Gordon about his plans, I would encourage him to scrap this system and bring back reserve football. Because that’s where I learned some of the greatest lessons of my life.

    I was eight stone. A wet lettuce. And here I was, at 15, playing against real men,
    experienced pros with hundreds of senior games under their belts. In my own dressing room were guys like Ian Ferguson, Ian Durrant and Ally McCoist.

    I must have learned more in five or six reserve games than today’s youngsters learn in 10 years of pro youth. They are being developed in a bubble, not exposed to the real world of professional football. Just listening to the experienced guys talk in the dressing room and watching the way they handled themselves was an education.

    I’d go home after being kicked up and down the park and realise how much work I had to do to get to where I wanted to be.

    I’d understand why Archie Knox kept banging on at me to eat porridge for breakfast. I’d go in the next day and scoff three bowls of the stuff even though it almost made me sick. I knew I had to produce if I wanted to take the next step up.

    Yes, we still produce talented boys but I’m not sure they are made to want it the way we did. I see them giving the ball away and not working hard to get it back and it kills me. I want to see young boys who would run through brick walls to make the grade.

    Today’s youths have gone soft but I don’t blame them. I blame the system they are being brought up in. If Strachan can change all that then, yes, he really might manage to fix Scottish football.

    Written by Barry Ferguson – Article from Daily Mail Friday 13th November 2015

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    At times I do feel I have over coached my team. Time to reflect.

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  • Please Don’t Quit

    Please Don’t Quit

    We have all heard the stories of kids quitting. Research suggests that around 70% of children are dropping out of organised sports by the age of 13 and the stats are even higher for girls.

    Many other things contribute to kids leaving sport, but the number one reason is it was no longer FUN!!

    Now fun can be categorised into lots of meanings. It’s still the number 1 reason they leave.

    In a 2014 study for George Washington University, researcher Amanda Visik interviewed numerous athletes and asked them why they played sports, and 9 out of 10 said the 1 reason they played was it was fun…

    They defined fun:

    1. As trying their best,
    2. Being treated respectfully by coaches, parents and teammates,
    3. Getting playing time.

    They listed eighty-one characteristics of fun, and winning (#48), playing tournaments (#63) and practicing with private trainers (#66) did not finish high on the list.

    Here is what kids wanted What kids say is most fun!

    The reason for this post is that I came across and great response from a coach to a child (Chris) age 11 who wanted to quit playing football.

    It’s starts Here > Hello Coach Leath, 

    My dad says I can’t quit my team, but I don’t want to play football anymore. All I do is sit on the bench during the games. What should I do?

    Your Friend,

    Chris, 11

    Dear Chris,

    Congratulations on making the football team. Believe it or not, the first year I tried out for football I did not make the team. I remember how sad I was when the coach read off the names of the kids who would be playing that year. I tried out the next year and sat on the bench during most of the games, only playing a few plays. But I knew I would not play in the games. The other players were bigger and better than I was, so why would coach put me in?

    So, instead of complaining about playing time, I decided to make practice my games. Every Tuesday and Thursday I would prepare for practice as if I was going to be playing a game. I went all out on the scout team, knowing that the harder I was to block in practice, the better my team would do in the game. When they did well in the game, I took pride in knowing I helped them prepare.

    Practice was hard, Chris. I got knocked down, a lot. I was scared, but I tried not to let the other players know how scared I was. Some of the players hit really hard and the noise alone made me want to quit.

    After a few weeks I got better and was less afraid. I made some friends on the team and started to have fun. I still got knocked down, and I wasn’t very good, but I realized what a privilege it was to be on the team. I promised myself I would finish the season and then decide if I wanted to play again.

    Also, I thought I was letting my dad down by not starting. When I told him I was embarrassed because I sat the bench, he told me he was proud that I made the team, and that he loved to watch me go all out in practice. That helped a lot knowing that my dad just loved to watch me practice.

    The next year, you know what? I was one of the best players on the team. I was voted team captain and rarely came out of the game. I am not saying this will happen for you, but I am telling you that in order to be good at something, you have to be okay with being bad at it first. Then you get better. Always aim to get better, no matter what you do in life.

    I want to encourage you to finish the season. You don’t have to play next year, but you should follow through with your commitment and try to have as much fun while you are there. Please don’t quit.

    Stay Curious,

    Coach Leath

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    the noral of the story is never quit, never give up and alsways finish something you’ve started. See it out where at all possible.

    You can check out James Leath blog here and he’s also on Twitter @jamesleath

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  • Ten rules for parents from 1974

    Ten rules for parents from 1974

    I got this information Glenn Mulcahy and it seems not much has changed in terms of parents involvement in their child’s sport.

    “Ten rules for parents of athletes” below written by Lloyd Percival, a coach in Canada during the 50’s and 60’s who worked with numerous athletes who became national champions or Olympians, He also published “The Hockey Handbook” which is argued by many to be one of the best hockey instructional books ever written published initially in 1951 although he only coached for one season of hockey.

    He credits his wife for the initial groundwork but the final rules he published in the Sport and Fitness Instructor (The Canadian Fitness Institutes monthly journal) in 1974 is a result of his interaction with numerous athletes and their parents during his tenure of coaching over 2 decades including his radio coaching on the Sports College for CBC’s National Radio Program.

    Since he published the ten rules, numerous sports bodies have incorporated variations of same, thought you would appreciate if had seen any of the variations the original ten rules I found posted by the author of Lloyds biography.

    Ten Rules For Parents of Athletes – Lloyd Percival – 1974

    1. Make sure your child knows that win or lose, scared or heroic, you love them, appreciate their efforts and are not disappointed in them.
    2. Try to be completely honest with yourself about your child’s athletic capability, competitive attitude, sportsmanship and actual level of skill.
    3. Be helpful, but don’t “coach” them on the way to the track, diamond or court … on the way back … at breakfast … and so on.
    4. Teach your child to enjoy the thrill of competition, to be “out there trying” to be working to improve their skills and attitudes … to take physical bumps and come back for more.
    5. Try not to re-live your athletic life through your child in a way that it creates pressure; you fumbled too, you lost as well as you won. You were frightened, you backed off at times, and you were not always heroic. Don’t pressure your child because of your pride.
    6. Don’t compete with the coach.
    7. Don’t compare the skill, courage or attitudes of your child with other members of the squad or team, at least in range of him/her hearing
    8. You should also get to know the coach so that you can be assured that their philosophy, attitudes , and ethics and knowledge are such that you are comfortable with them taking a prominent role in the development of your child.
    9. Always remember that children tend to exaggerate, both when praised and when criticized.
    10. Make a point of understanding courage and the fact that it is relative.

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  • Podcast 5: Paul Fogarty – Head Of Youth Development Shelbourne FC

    Podcast 5: Paul Fogarty – Head Of Youth Development Shelbourne FC

    In Podcast 5, I speak with Paul Fogarty of Shelbourne FC. We discuss coaching, UEFA B & A Licenses, Youth Development, The new League Of Ireland u17s League and more….


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  • Open Letter from a Volunteer Coach in New Zealand

    Open Letter from a Volunteer Coach in New Zealand

    “Today I heard a comment made about me behind my back. I started to turn around and look, but then decided better of it and kept my eyes on the field.

    My wife hears things like this more often than I do, because many of you don’t know who she is. She tells me what you say. I have received… angry emails, full of “suggestions,” about who should be playing where and how I… lost that day’s game for the kids.

    I thought I’d write an open letter to all of you parents, even though I might never send it. I’ll start it this way: “I am a volunteer.”

    “I am pretty sure they like coming to my practices and games, and without me or someone like me, there’d be no team for them to play on”

    I’m the one who answered the call when the league said they didn’t have enough coaches. I understand that you were too busy. I have some news for you. I’m not retired. I’m busy too. I have other children and a job, just like you do. Not only do I not get paid to do this – it costs me money. I see you walk up to the game 15 minutes after it started, still dressed for work. Do you know I’ve already been here over an hour? Imagine if you had to leave work early nearly every day. I’ve never seen you at a practice. I’m sure you’re plugging away at the office. But I’m out here, on the field, trying my best to teach these children how to play a sport they love, while my bank account suffers.

    “Many nights I’m sure you’ve already had dinner and are relaxing on the couch by the time I finally kick the mud off my shoes and climb into my car, which hasn’t been washed or vacuumed for weeks”

    I know. I make mistakes. In fact, maybe I’m not even that great of a coach. But I treat the kids fairly and with respect. I am pretty sure they like coming to my practices and games, and without me or someone like me, there’d be no team for them to play on. I’m part of this community too and it’s no picnic being out here on this stage like this. It’s a lot easier back there with the other parents where no one is second-guessing you.
    And I also know you think I give my son or daughter unfair advantages. I try not to. In fact, have you ever considered that maybe I’m harder on him than on the others? I’m sure he hears plenty of criticism at school from classmates, who hear it from you at home, about what a lame coach I am. And if, even unconsciously, my kids are getting a slight advantage because I know them better and trust their abilities, is that the worst thing in the world, considering the sacrifice I’m making? Trust me, I want to win too. And if your son or daughter could guarantee we’d do that, I’d give them the chance.

    “The positives outweigh the negatives”

    After this game is over, I’ll be the last one to leave. I have to break down the field, put away all the equipment and make sure everyone has had a parent arrive to pick them up. There have been evenings when my son and I waited with a player until after dark before someone came to get them. Many nights I’m sure you’ve already had dinner and are relaxing on the couch by the time I finally kick the mud off my shoes and climb into my car, which hasn’t been washed or vacuumed for weeks. Why bother cleaning it during the season? Do you know how nice it would be if, just once, after a game one of you offered to carry the heavy gear bag to my car or help straighten up the field?

    If I sound angry, I’m not. I do this because I love it and I love being around the kids. There are plenty of rewards and I remind myself that while you’re at the office working, your kid is saying something that makes us all laugh or brings a tear to my eye. The positives outweigh the negatives. I just wish sometime those who don’t choose to volunteer their time would leave the coaching to the few of us who do.”

    I believe this letter originated from a volunteer rugby coach with Otago Boys High in New Zealand.

    – End

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  • Whats the role of a Coach?

    Whats the role of a Coach?

    Last week I posted on Facebook Your role as a coach and added the following:

    • Be organised;
    • Be knowledgeable;
    • Be on time;
    • Be prepared;
    • Be presentable;
    • Be approachable;
    • Be enthusiastic
    • Be fair;
    • Be a good Communicator;
    • Be respectful;

    I then asked, what would you add, starting with Be….? I got a great response and have now added others input. See pic attached.

    Added to the role are:

    • Be understanding
    • Be early
    • Be realistic
    • Be listening
    • Be patient
    • Be receptive
    • Be constructive
    • Be in charge
    • Be supportive
    • Be a role model

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