Category: Irish Grassroots Football

  • InsideSoccer is now FREE

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    Inside Soccer is now completely free on YOUTUBE 

    Inside Soccer is the most comprehensive soccer website for coach education and player development in the world. Since its inception in 2008, InsideSoccer has constantly sought to expose to a global soccer community the philosophies and methodologies of the best clubs on the planet. Now it’s moved to a youtube channel and it’s completely free for you.

    Check out their PLAYLISTS 

    I have to say this resource is all a coach/manager needs, you won’t find a better football coaching content channel anywhere in the world today. They’ve already uploaded 800 soccer training videos from Inside Soccer.com onto their new page on  Youtube and you can find out more and stay up to date by following them on twitter @insidesoccer 

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  • Kids just want to have FUN…

    Kids just want to have FUN…

    Kids just want to have fun and if they’re not having fun, they may not come back. At the end of the day it’s just a game…a kids game and in years to come when you look back at the results they will mean nothing…..

    Someone asked me the other day what would I say to a coach starting out? I remember reading something in an article about that very question and it went something like this,  “If this is your 1st game to coach or your 1000th, take an occasional peek toward the end. Winning is a by-product of doing all things the correct way. What matters the most is the effort you made to make a difference in those kids lifes.”

    How many sport organisations ask the kids what they want from sport. How many take a child centre approach to coaching the game. Children have a very different view about their game to what the adults actually think they do.

    With regard to soccer even during the early teenage years, we cannot predict who is going to be the best. Many things start to happen and it is not until after 20 years of age do we find out who has survived the journey to elite level. That is ten years, plus the glorious years of child football! – Johan Fallby Sport Psychologist at premier Danish soccer club F.C. Copenhagen

    What are the kids after?

    Why do they get into the game? Well, they get into because their introduction to any sport was generally through play and play to children = FUN.

    You will have more successful athletes if you coach the process, effort, and the pursuit of excellence and then the outcome happens by itself.

    Believe it or not children don’t actually think they are going to be professional sports players. It’s only a very small percentage that actually believe this. For most the kids the idea of imitating one of their idols is good enough. That is play. It’s adult that actually dream more about their kids becoming a professional player.

    Kids play sport because its fun. They get a chance to hang out with their mats and play outside. They get a chance to put on the club colours at the weekend. They get a chance to play their game for real and all because it’s FUN!

    ….and what makes it FUN? Organised training sessions where they get a chance to improve their ability, skills and game intelligence in a child centre environment. When the game is fun then the kids will keep coming back.

    Kids don’t value winning as much as adults do. They love to win but they prefer to play. So even if the team is winning every week, the kids who don’t play don’t feel part of the success. Kids would rather lose and play than win and not play.

    They do not play to win. They like to win, they enjoy competing, but they do not play to win. They play to have fun, to be with their friends, to feel good about themselves, and because it is exciting.

    “Be strong and work to eliminate this culture and ignorance from your club. Be curious and find out more about how a sports environment should look like for your child” – Johan Fallby

    No kid wants to train two or three times a week to only get 5 or 10 minutes of a game at the weekend. When kids sign up to play a sport or when their parents sign them up, the kids go into this process with their eye on playing the game at the weekend. Training is not the fun part of the week, the game is.

    THE COACHES JOB:

    • Is to make sure the kids are having fun and learning in an age specific environment.
    • We have a culture that’s has come from pro sports where people pay to get entertained “Entertainment Zone” this feeds the win at all costs mentality on kids sport. Grassroots is not that, grassroots is the “development zone”
    • Research has shown that when you focus on development of the game, creating a mastery culture rather than the winning one, everything being equal, you do better in the long run and you end up winning anyway.

    Social Neuroscience, of undergrads at Case Western Reserve University : “The No. 1 change any coach can make, on any level, is to focus more on the positive. A recent study, published in Social Neuroscience, of undergrads at Case Western Reserve University, found that young people who are coached using a positive approach — envisioning future success, in particular — were more likely to be compassionate and open to ideas for improvement. They were also more likely to make lasting behavioural changes than those coached by people who focused on their weaknesses”.

    In the end of the day the kids that stay in sport for longer are the ones who really benefit. If you see sports as being fun the chances are so will the kids you coach.

    Give kids quality coaching in a fun environment with meaningful competition and they will keep coming back for…. So yes, occasionally take a peek into the future, even just a year later and see how many of the kids you coach keep coming back. How many of them have you retained and improved from last year? Your job is to continue to provide an environment that allows them to get better and keep coming back for more.

    References

    I have taken lost of references from this interview and If you care about youth sport then I highly recommend you read: Johan Fallby talks to footblogball

    Also read Per Göran Fahlström also on footblogball

    Changing The Game Project

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  • Motivating the players after a big loss..

    Motivating the players after a big loss..

    This was the teams second season in the top division and it was always going to be a massive step up, particularly after losing 5 players from last years starting 11 along with 2 more from a squad of 15, this was a big re-shuffle. So we welcomed 8 new lads and we basically start again.

    Come Sunday lunch time I was licking my wounds and writing like crazy on how I was going to approach training Tuesday. In the last 5 seasons we haven’t experienced a defeat quit like this one and it wasn’t like we didn’t try to play and keep the good habits; for parts we did but we also lacked the concentration & desire required to compete for entire game.

    So when the refs blows his final whistle and the scoreboard reads the wrong way – a big loss. You start to look inwards and need to find solutions quickly. So after everyone left the park and went about their day, I hung on and spent sometime alone.

    So how to turn a bad day into a good week, that was going to be key. I was looking for answers.

    The first thing was to focus on the positives of the game. It’s too easy to focus on  what went wrong and let that negativity lead into the next game. I had to focus on what went right and how to correct the mistakes. Everyone made mistakes, including me, so my aim was to try and improve the lads by putting a plan in place.

    Coach John Wooden once said

    “Too often, coaches spend the time on everything that went wrong and don’t focus on the positives”. “Think about the positives things. How can we take the things that went right in the game into next week?”

    John Wooden was always big on positive energy, not negative energy.

    By focusing on the positives the players won’t dwell on the negatives.

    So the questions I asked:

    1. Give me 5 things we did well?
    2. 5 things we didn’t do so well?
    3. What do we need to do in order to get better?
    4. What do we need to stop doing in order to get better?

    At the end of training on Thursday, it was time to focus on the new goals and motivate the players for the weekends game.

    1. Speak to the players individually.
    2. Bring up the things they did well, even if they did things, not so well.
    3. Motivation and positive feedback, even an arm around them was key to getting the players ready for game 2.
    4. This was not going to be the time when I lay into the players. This was the time to build up their emotional tank.

    “Losing is part of the game. If you never lose, you are never truly tested, and never forced to grow.”

    Time to build up the emotional tank!

    How? 

    So, whether you’re a coach or captain, be sure to set new goals for the next game rather than focus about the most recent loss. Motivate the rest of the team with positive feedback and encouragement throughout the week ahead.

    When we are having to motivate the players, we are talking about adding fuel to their emotional tank. If the emotional tank is full the players have the capacity to play their best.

    What is this emotional tank, that I’m referring too? It’s like a gas tank in a car. When it is full, we run well, but when it is empty, we can’t go very far.

    Why is it important that we keep each other’s tanks full?

    If our Emotional Tank is empty, we become negative, and we give up easier. If our tanks are full, however, we are optimistic and are able to handle difficult situations. As the coach, I will do my best to help fill Emotional Tanks of players. I need to help them be as positive as possible in order to play well.

    When  someone misses a clear chance and someone says, Nice miss (sarcastically), this is going to have a negative impact on the player. This can be know as draining the Emotional Tank.

    When you criticise or insult the players, you make them feel worse and you drain their Emotional Tank. Sometimes you have to correct to help them learn the game.

    As a coach, I will try to do this in a way that keeps your Emotional Tank full.

    We win together and lose together. 

    One bad back pass didn’t make the team lose the weekend’s game. While it is very easy to blame one player for a mistake, remember that the game is a team effort. In the past I might have pointed the finger but it takes 11+ players to win or lose a game. As a coach I have to make sure I’m there to lift the players up again.

    “You have no choices about how you lose, but you do have a choice about how you come back and prepare to win again.”

    Time to think about the next game

    The best way to motivate the team is encourage the players to move on to the next game. We either win or we learn (Thanks Drew). Last week we learned…we learnt a lot. I talked with players about ways to address aspects of the game that went right and ones that went wrong but once Thursday’s session was finished it was time to focus on the next game. I let the players know that come Sunday morning when they wake up, that is the start of a whole new week, so it’s time to erase the the past and focus on the here & now.

    So ultimately what really matters the most is our mindset (a positive one), our work rate, our effort, our memories good and bad. The win’s and losses aren’t important. The most important thing is the experience, the journey and creating positive memories – because at the end of the day that’s what’s going to bring the team together, that’s what they will remember the most and no matter if we win or lose our effort and respect for each another is where the real winning lies.

    This season is going to be an especially great season if we support each other and keep our Emotional Tanks full. With full Emotional Tanks, we will be ready to for the battle, and there is no limit to what we can accomplish.

    I’ll end with this great quote,

    “Losing is only temporary and not all encompassing. You must simply study it, learn from it, and try hard not to lose the same way again. Then you must have the self-control to forget about it.” – John Wooden

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  • A Players Message To Parents

    A Players Message To Parents

    I’m not sure of the originality of this I think I first saw it on a Youth Football Scotland back in 2013 but I have since edited it.

    Thanks for coming to support our team today. I want you to remember a few things that will help with our performance:

    I play the game because it’s fun, I want to Learn and Improve. You can help all the players, and I by encouraging us.

    You are here representing our family and I; please don’t embarrass me by being negative, by shouting or swearing.

    Praise me for trying a skill, good discipline, sportsmanship and my effort. These are the things that make me a real winner and better player.

    Don’t criticise my mistakes or talk about me on the sideline, I will be scared to try things again. Mistakes are what help me improve, I will learn from them.

    Please don’t stand to close to the sideline, as this will distract the players and I from concentrating on the things we should be doing during the game.

    Please respect the referee, don’t question the decisions. They may not always get it right, like us they are trying and doing their best.

    Sometimes, there are no referees, please don’t questions any decisions. My Coach will help, if we need it.

    Please don’t coach me from the sideline or walk up and down the line. My coach is here to help, if we need it.

    You don’t shout over my teacher in school, so please don’t shout over my coach. He/she has given us a set of instructions to follow.

    Please do not challenge any spectators who behave in the wrong way. Just tell them that we don’t allow negative behaviour like that here.

    Doing my best and learning how to play is an important part of my development. We all (the kids) want to win but having fun and improving is much more important to us.

    There are no scores recorded and even when they are, don’t ask me about the result. Ask me, ‘how I played and if I had fun’. You can also say “I love watching you play” because really that’s all I need to you to say.

    You can download a pdf of it HERE

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  • Remembering Horst Wein 1941-2016

    Remembering Horst Wein 1941-2016

    Last Sunday one of the most formative coaches in the history of the game passed away. I was going to write a message about my experiences with Horst and how I first came across him back in 2009. Dermot Dalton from the Beautifulgame.ie (a website devoted to Horst Wein Philosophy) and myself ran the first coaches seminar with Horst Wein back in 2011. Soon after Dermot introduced Ireland to a unique training programme for 7-9 year olds, called FUNino The Beautiful Game for Kids which is proven component of the Spanish Football Development Model Futbol a la medida del Niño or football designed for children. These methodology was started in 1993. Find out more about this unique game >> here

    This is a short video of the seminar in Dublin. It was great to see all the top people from coach education with the FAI at the workshop. I’m sure they were inspired by Horst as everyone who met him was!!!

    Dermot’s Message: 

    Our dear friend, mentor and inspiration passed away on Sunday 14th February 2016. He will be sadly missed by his many friends in the world of football, hockey and beyond.

    Born in Hannover, Germany, Horst lived for the latter half of his life in Barcelona, where he is survived by his two sons.

    His influence first in the game of hockey started as a German International player, and later as a coach, leading Spain to their first ever European title and an Olympic silver medal. He was the first to be awarded the title of FIH Master Coach and also became the first ever coach to the European team for their match against Asia in 1975. His book “The Science of Hockey” has sold more copies than any other hockey book.

    Horst was encouraged by FC Barcelona to bring his game intelligence approach to football and he worked as a consultant for many top European and International clubs as well as a host of international football federations. His lasting legacy to Spanish football is his famous age-appropriate development model “Futbol a la medida del Nino” which has been the official textbook there for more than two decades.

    Horst will be fondly remembered for his passion to bring a child-friendly approach to coaching soccer and indeed all sports.

    Here are a sample of some of the tributes made to Horst this week:

     I am sorry for your loss…for the entire world’s loss.  Horst’s vision and his passion were wonderful to behold, and I have no doubt that, with your help, it will continue to sweep the world.  The kids embrace it, and soon enough they will outnumber those who don’t.  I feel privileged to have met him and attended your workshop last year.

    I am saddened to learn the news of Horst’s passing. He was an inspirational coach, and a brilliant human being. I regard it as a privilege to have met Horst, and to have spent quality time with him. His innovative approach to coaching and education and his desire to empower others meant his life will always be remembered. He impacted the world in a healthy way.

    When great people like Horst pass on we all hurt. We are grateful that he left us with so much to study from, and so much to pass on. Currently, I am in a fight for the basic rights of youth players. Horst and yourself through Funiño and your passion for teaching children have been a great source of strength as I bare down in my battle against those who try to steal the innocence of the Beautiful Game.

    Sometimes you know immediately that you have met someone who is a blessing in your life and in that of others. Horst was certainly one of those people and had a vision and a passion to use this great game to empower people, to educate and to serve them. He did this with an open mind and a dreamers heart.

    In Horst, we’ve lost a world class soccer visionary. In my view, his methods put him in a class all by himself. He was unique in that he found the formula to enhance knowledge and passion for the game at the same time. All the while staying true to the simple and beautiful game. Because of Horst, there are thousands of players all around the world that got the chance to truly enjoy playing soccer at a higher level…A sad day. Horst will be sorely missed here… Thankfully he remains on the field with us at every session.

    I receive this news with a heavy heart. It was an absolute honor to have met and learned from Horst. My condolences to his family. The work to deliver his message must go on. His influence is visible in the joy of the children around the world playing the beautiful game. The friendships that I have made through my relation with Horst will certainly go on and I also consider them priceless.

    I guess now God will be playing FUNino in heaven! Horst has been a soccer angel on earth! He will be missed not only for his soccer excellence but as a great human being!

    Horst really lived his life through his love of giving to youth sport…1stly hockey…then Football…he was always ready to learn..and always ready to share….the great thing is he has left a legacy for kids Football just when the world of kids sport really needs to lighten up and allow them to play..lets all carry on his work and help kids enjoy their sport again!

    I’m thankful to have known him and I’m so appreciative for the friends I’ve made through him. Horst was one of a kind in many ways and he’ll be missed my many around the world.

    We will miss you, dear friend, but your work continues in the many coaches you have inspired to care about their sport, whether hockey, football or other, and the many children who have experienced the joy of exploring their game in a care-free discovery environment.

    Dermot

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    Thanks for that message Dermot.

    The TCD Facebook also page received some messages:

    Saddened to here of the passing of Mr. Horst Wein the “Coach of Coaches” I had the pleasure to spend sometime with him in Barcelona and then again during our coaching workshop in Dublin back in 2011.

    He said to me, “In Ireland the kids are not allowed to discover the game and the beauty of the game of football. Why, they are exposed to competition which is by far to difficult and to complex for them. Competition for kids, should fit them like their shoes. Over here, at the moment our kids are playing with shoes that are by far to big and don’t suit them perfectly.”

    He also said that Brazil would not qualify for the 2018 world cup, that was something that I also remembered from our meeting in Barca.

    Horst always challenged us to re-think youth development and he inspired me to keep challenging and developing. I know plenty of Irish Coaches will be very sad to hear this terrible news. Rest in Peace Horst

    Yes agreed an inspiration…to me

    Sadness. Brilliant man!

    My first introduction to coaching material was through Horst Wein and he inspired me continuously improve my game.

    Horst was a true inspiration and coach legend.

    You can find out more about this wonderful coach on Horstwein.net and Dermot’s website is thebeautifulgame.ie  

    The rights of a young football player,

    “Developing Youth Soccer Players” by Horst Wein (RIP)

    1. The right to enjoyment both in practice and in competition, with a wide variety of activities that promote fun and easy learning.
    2. The right to play as a child and not be treated like an adult, either on or off the playing field.
    3. The right to participate in competitions with simplified rules, adapted to their level of ability and capacity in each stage of their evolution.
    4. The right to play in conditions of greatest possible safety.
    5. The right to participate in all aspects of the game.
    6. The right to be trained by experienced and specially prepared coaches and developers.
    7. The right to gain experience by resolving most of the problems that arise during practices.
    8. The right to be treated with dignity by the coach, their team-mates, and by their opponents.
    9. The right to play with children of their own age with similar chances of winning.
    10. The right not to become a champion.

    *Main post picture supplied by the beautiful game

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  • “Kids are overcoached”- Rangers & Scottish International Barry Ferguson

    “Kids are overcoached”- Rangers & Scottish International Barry Ferguson

    BARRY reflects on his time coming through as a teenager at Ibrox and claims the biggest problem with the current system is that youngsters are being OVERCOACHED.

    SO Gordon Strachan’s plan for the future of Scottish football is to turn the clock back 30 years? Well, let me be the first to say he’s got it absolutely spot on.

    Thirty years ago I was seven. And every day was the same. Run home from primary school, dump my bag, get my joggies and T-shirt on, grab my goalie gloves, boots and ball and straight back out.

    An hour and a half later I’d hear my dad whistle and I knew it was time for dinner. Run back home, square sausage and chips. Bang.

    “It’s like they’re living in a completely different world. They’ve got all the latest kit, washed and ironed for them, the new boots, the slicked-back hair and everything is laid on for them at the best facilities. But when I look at their wee faces I don’t see the same enjoyment I felt at that age”

    Scran it down, run straight back out the door, start playing again, get a stitch, feel sick, lie on the grass for five minutes then get back on the park. A couple of hours later I’d hear another whistle and knew it was bath time. That was it. That was my whole life. And I couldn’t have been happier.

    Funnily enough, I bumped into an old neighbour a few weeks ago and the first thing he said was: “I remember you kicking that ball of yours around at all sorts of times under the streetlights.”

    I wasn’t allowed to play with it inside because my dad used to threaten to toe me up the a*** if I smashed anything, so I’d take a pair of his old socks, roll them up into a ball and cover them in masking tape. Then I’d try to do overhead kicks with it on the couch.

    That was how I grew up and how I fell in love with playing football. And Strachan is right – the sooner we get back to something similar, the quicker we might start developing some proper football players again.

    These days I watch a lot of the Under-20 games and, like Strachan, I’m not a fan. I can’t help but look at these kids and think they’ve been over-coached.

    I’m not having a go at the coaches because they are trying their best. But the problem goes deeper. It’s more to do with modern life and the way our youngsters are growing up.

    From a very early age all they want to do is mess about on iPads, laptops, Xboxes or Playstations. They have forgotten what it’s like to make their own entertainment.

    It breaks my heart every time I drive past a piece of grass and don’t see a kid with a ball on it. It makes me think back to my own childhood and how different things were back then. I grew up in a scheme in Bellshill. There was another scheme half-a-mile away and we would organise games against each other. But that was just a part of it.

    I’d be out there with my mates building goalposts out of scrap wood. We would borrow a lawnmower from someone’s dad and cut the grass ourselves. Then we’d nick a bag of sawdust from somewhere and put down lines. It was just a field we were playing in but, for us, it felt like we were running out at Hampden.

    Now I look at these 10-11-12-year-olds who are already signed up with clubs playing pro youth football and I wonder what they would have made of us.

    It’s like they’re living in a completely different world. They’ve got all the latest kit, washed and ironed for them, the new boots, the slicked-back hair and everything is laid on for them at the best facilities. But when I look at their wee faces I don’t see the same enjoyment I felt at that age. Half of them look as if they are bored to death and going through the motions. As if they’d rather be at home playing FIFA 2016.

    I can’t blame them either because I watch the way these training sessions are being put on and I shake my head in disbelief. When I was a boy I used to enjoy coaching sessions and I really loved the drills we got.

    But they were much more simple back then. These days it’s as if the coach is trying to be the star, setting up drills that are so OTT and so complicated that half the time the kids don’t know what’s going on.

    For me, these passing drills should be set up in order for every boy to get a touch of the ball every three or four seconds. But I’m now watching passing drills where the youngsters are standing freezing cold in long lines getting one touch every minute. That drives me crazy.

    By the time the kid gets his turn he’s either standing there, shivering with his sleeves over his hand, talking to one of his mates about how bored he is or daydreaming about what’s for dinner that night. You can see them losing interest in front of your face.

    With my boys, I make it so simple they are always getting a touch of the ball, always on the move. That way they are always concentrating. Their minds are always on the drill. That’s the way to make them enjoy it.

    What you want to do is make them feel the way we used to as boys – make them desperate to come back again tomorrow. I don’t see that in many of today’s youngsters.

    Gordon is right. Somewhere along the line we have taken the fun out of football and if he can find a way to bring that back then he’ll be doing our entire game a massive favour.

    Give these kids a ball. Give them simple instructions and let them play. Let them try to copy Cristiano Ronaldo and Lionel Messi and don’t criticise them when they do a
    stepover or try an overhead kick.

    Yes, from time to time you might tell them not to try these things inside their own penalty box – there’s a time and place – but the whole point is we need to let these kids express themselves and enjoy playing the game.

    I’m sick of watching 10-year-olds playing in a rigid 4-4-2 or a 4-2-3-1, terrified to get caught out of position in case they are told off by the coach.

    “Today’s youths have gone soft but I don’t blame them. I blame the system they are being brought up in. If Strachan can change all that then, yes, he really might manage to fix Scottish football”

    No wonder they get fed up with football. By the time they reach Under-20s they have been completely conditioned into playing the game a certain way. They are not individual football players, they are clones.

    And that’s why, if I could speak to Gordon about his plans, I would encourage him to scrap this system and bring back reserve football. Because that’s where I learned some of the greatest lessons of my life.

    I was eight stone. A wet lettuce. And here I was, at 15, playing against real men,
    experienced pros with hundreds of senior games under their belts. In my own dressing room were guys like Ian Ferguson, Ian Durrant and Ally McCoist.

    I must have learned more in five or six reserve games than today’s youngsters learn in 10 years of pro youth. They are being developed in a bubble, not exposed to the real world of professional football. Just listening to the experienced guys talk in the dressing room and watching the way they handled themselves was an education.

    I’d go home after being kicked up and down the park and realise how much work I had to do to get to where I wanted to be.

    I’d understand why Archie Knox kept banging on at me to eat porridge for breakfast. I’d go in the next day and scoff three bowls of the stuff even though it almost made me sick. I knew I had to produce if I wanted to take the next step up.

    Yes, we still produce talented boys but I’m not sure they are made to want it the way we did. I see them giving the ball away and not working hard to get it back and it kills me. I want to see young boys who would run through brick walls to make the grade.

    Today’s youths have gone soft but I don’t blame them. I blame the system they are being brought up in. If Strachan can change all that then, yes, he really might manage to fix Scottish football.

    Written by Barry Ferguson – Article from Daily Mail Friday 13th November 2015

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    At times I do feel I have over coached my team. Time to reflect.

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  • Stick at it!! Is a great life lesson to teach any kid

    Stick at it!! Is a great life lesson to teach any kid

    I receive emails and messages from parents and coaches all the time and I’m always delighted to receive them because I know how much effort it takes for people to write them and then hit the send button.

    I got one this morning after a mother had read the Please Don’t Quit post. Her son was being harshly treated and not getting a fair chance to play.

    In her words:

    Good morning,
    I just read the article on don’t Quit, I just want to say it’s very good. We have been through a really hard time with our 10yr old son who was playing with a well known club since he was in their academy. In his last year his manager treated him horrendously, constantly picking on him & two other boy’s.

    Refusing to play them, leaving them standing in the cold, telling them they were not as good as other players, not fit enough for a full game etc etc.. They we’re all equally as good as each other the seven player’s on the team including the manager’s son played every minute of every game. I could go on all day with a list of thing’s!

    The effect that the bullying had on our son was horrible, he was very sick & very self conscious he wasn’t eating for us or interacting with family or friends. It really was an awful time for everyone.

    We did go to the club & to the child welfare officer about the situation & he was well aware of what the manager was like as he had a reputation for it and had done the same to a lot of kid’s and  moved them on.

    They tried their best to get rid of him from the club, they had a committee meeting and he was saved by two votes. Which was an absolute joke, they knew the kid’s were been bullied so he should have been removed from the club.

    We had to wait until the end of the season to move our son and we did, he’s now playing for another well know club and he’s absolutely striving. He is like a completely different child, oozing with confidence again and getting plenty of playing time with his new team mate’s!!

    His school teacher called us a couple of weeks ago and asked us if we had done something different with him, as he was like a new child. We explained what had happened and that we moved him to a new club, she said it was like a puzzle coming together all his school work had improved.

    The bullying had a really bad effect on him and everything was suffering because of it. Moving him was the best move we ever made, we had thought about taking him out all together but he’s so happy again. I think it has made him a stronger person and he knows himself what went on and realises that he stayed strong, fought through it and didn’t let it knock him back.

    Most of all he never Quit …!!

    I can’t fit everything into this email as there is so much….

    But I definitely don’t think there is not enough awareness about bullying in schoolboy football, it could have been a lot worse for our son but we saw the signs early & got help as quick as we could.
    He still talks about it every now & then I don’t think it will ever leave him, but like I said I hope it makes him a stronger person.

    I hope you don’t mind me sending this to you!

    A Mother and Sideline Supporter

    -End

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